Cass Mann, an HIV-positive gay man and the founder of UK's only gay men's HIV/AIDS charity Positively Healthy (http://www.posh-uk.org.uk/), talks about alternatives to anal sex and oral sex that don't carry the risk of HIV transmission. Mutual masturbation and frottage (rubbing against your partner) do not carry the risk of HIV transmission. We in the West have a "wham bam" culture in which these alternatives may seem less exciting at first, but they can be very pleasurable. You can investigate Tantric sexuality, Taoism, or the Kama Sutra for gay men. "Wham bam" sex isn't nurturing; it's almost always abusive, violent, and non-nurturing. These alternatives are lengthier, more satisfying, nurturing and enlightening. In the Indian, Tibetan and Taoist Tantric Yoga systems, they activate all your chakras, leading to an awakening from unconsciousness into enlightenment that is the end-point of all sex acts. For more information about HIV and AIDS, visit http://www.posh-uk.org.uk/ and http://www.AIDSvideos.org/.